Perks of having a big family

made me realise what would Eid be without my rather large family? Are there any major perks of having a big family?

Eid was last month but I put I decided to write about it today.

I don’t know if you can tell but I don’t like large gatherings and making small talk that absolutely doesn’t lead to anywhere and most of the time has a predictable beginning and ending.

But this Eid i made an exception and decided to venture out of my comfort zone, it being 2022 and all. The year for new beginnings. I have a large family of aunts, uncles, great aunts and uncles, cousins, grandparents, great grandparents and their relatives. Not all of us live in the city but my grandparents flew over to where we live this Ramadan. I’m extremely fond of them and get to know them better everytime we meet.

Anyway during the Eid dinner my uncle hosts every year, the hustle and bustle of my relatives, lavish food spreads and conversation made me realise what would Eid be without my rather large family? Are there any major perks of having a big family? what about smaller families? Do they have an equally good time amongst themselves? they have each other after all.

So i made the old fashioned pros and cons list. The pros far greater than cons.

I realised that i should appreciate my large family with all its quirks. And the next family gathering i made it a point to interact with all relatives and cousins and i’d be lying if i said i didn’t have fun.

I don’t know about you but i surely appreciate the laughter and activity around me during festivals, I just needed a moment to stop and be made aware of its existence

Until next time,

Who are we when we are alone?

Most of the people I know are always surrounded by people, our houses always bustling with activity and filled with guests. But when we are alone what do we do? And more importantly who are we when we are alone?

My friend has a drawer full of paintings, she’s never shown anyone and apparently doesn’t intend to. Another, prints and sticks her shower thoughts from her notes app into her journal. And yet another loves going on long walks and getting lost in the city.

diverse people have diverse ideas of what their alone time constitutes but is there a similar trait between everyone’s ideas, are they all built on the same foundation and connected by the same link? Something to ponder upon.

According to my observations people like to unwind when they are alone. They like to slip back into their roots and get to know themselves better by just doing what makes them feel at ease. For me it would without a thought be books and coffee.

Another thought that wandered into my mind was, why your activities in your alone time are limited to when you are alone? Fear of being judged perhaps? or perhaps the complete inability to do so in presence of others?

Whatever it is that we do, is not without meaning. After all sitting and doing nothing in solitude could also mean something.

When I think of who my friends are when they are alone I cannot imagine them not being themselves. But after the layers of polite obligatory smiles are ripped off, who are they? Arrogant, adamant, amicable? What are they like? The same? I’m just getting Curiouser and curiouser!!

Who are YOU when you are alone? A poet? Druglord? Waiter at your favourite Chinese takeout? I’ve heard worse.

until next time,

Is third wheeling all in our head?

It is what the population of my coutry is calling the ‘cuffing season’ also known as the ‘dating season’ and for good reason. Extravagant gestures of love or lust, as i’d like to see it are displayed around me. In this sappy love filled atmosphere I couldnt help but wonder if I was the only one who didnt feel the need to warm up to someone else’s sweater? And surely I couldnt possibly be the only one who felt like they didn’t belong?

Reaching out to my asexual and single friends, I wasn’t alone. And confronting my friends in a relationship I was overthinking it. No surprise there! Overthinking is something we all do and rightfully so. But is third wheeling a general predicament of not being in a relationship or is it all in our head?

Maybe their displays of affection are just displays of affections and not a ‘rubbing it in my nose’ Maybe we’re reading into it and it is not their intention to make us feel uncomfortable. Or not.

Truth be told, I always look on the darker side of things, the worst possibility and the fact that my need to be alone is alarming and threatening to me. Therefore the negative reaction.

But from what i’ve learnt your friends dont intend to make you feel like a third wheel and its possibly all in your head. But Buzzfeed may tell you otherwise. Communication is probably the only way to find out for sure.

Until next time,

a fresh start

its 11 in the night here and im ready to go to bed. but my thoughts wander to my blog. this blog.the corner shop. the blog whose link i’ve been dreading to click. but i put aside my fears and opened my blog. SURPRISE!!! just how i left it, with a few more notifications. scrolling through the posts i realised i was not satisfied with my content. what i thought to be witty and original then, seems monotonous and repeated. dont get me wrong, i love my blog, the community and all of it but some how what this blog needs desperately right now is

A FRESH START

until next time,

Arwa

Is covid-19 turning into a taboo?

Morning its the corner shop! Welcome or welcome back:)

You’re living under a rock if you don’t know about the pandemic

I recently completely recovered from the virus, Although my quarantine got over a while ago I had a lot of long term symptoms. I was very weak physically and moreover mentally exhausted too.

Days of lack of physical and social contact with people had made me depressed and frustrated. I was at a loss of what to do sitting in my room. I kept thinking of what was happening outside, what i was missing. It was very exhausting for me to be in isolation as my anxiety was just heightened with the lack of social contact.

The name of the virus does bring arise a sense of fear and wariness in us doesn’t it? Fear less, wariness more these days. When my family started showing symptoms they were very hesitant in testing themselves, why? They were scared of how the society would treat them once they recovered. How everyone would avoid them. I found this very disturbing and i’m sure you do too, is Covid-19 slowly turning into a taboo, something that people should be ashamed of? With the rapid spread of the virus in my country the chances of us staying negative were slim as both my parents work in professions that require contact with others.

It was saddening that what a lot of us think about while in quarantine is how the society will treat us in the long run. We need to be more sympathetic to those infected with the virus so that they’re not faced with the choice of not taking the covid test (this irresponsible choice could lead to the spreading of the virus even further.)

Despite their hesitancy my family DID take the test and once we were in quarantine, the help from our neighbours, friends and even acquaintances was overwhelming! Although a few people did express their wariness, so many more were sympathetic. All the help and encouragement from everyone around us helped us recover faster. A good society and positivity is an important factor for the well being of those in quarantine!!

You kind gestures can go a long way,

Until next time,

Few things I do that help me de-stress

Morning!! Its the corner shop, welcome or welcome back!

A lot of us suffer from anxiety or stress in general, at this point I think its inevitable. Shouting and loud noises are my triggers. I feel extremely uncomfortable and experience anxiety when I witness the same. Below are a few things I do that put me at ease:)

#1 Read

Reading is my comfort hobby since forever I feel instantly comforted when I read. It helps me put my mind off things as I can focus on the characters and plot.

#2 Listen to a podcast

I prefer podcasts over music. I love listening to people talk while I can conveniently zone out, I enjoy listening to people’s views on different topics, listening to podcasts helps me de-stress almost immediately. I usually fall asleep while listening to them:)

#3 Crosswords

When I was very young mom bought me my first ever crossword and word search puzzle book, since then i’ve been doing word search in my free time. Its one of my favourite things to do when im bored and I can do it everywhere and anywhere!!

#4 Anchor stitch kit

My aunt gifted me this stitch kit, she had been asking me to try it for a long time but I didn’t really order one so she decided to buy me one because she was sure I would like it. The stitch kit has a preset design with multiple holes so you can run your needle and thread through them along the borders. There are a variety of designs and once i finish it the feeling of accomplishment is unreal!!

These were a few things I do. Until next time,

Reviewing the ‘pomodoro’ method of studying

Morning, its The Corner Shop!

While researching for my post, 5 effective ways to study better I came across the Pomodoro method of studying and decided to try it out for myself.

The Pomodoro method from what I understood is basically studying for 25 mins with breaks of 5 mins. This method is supposed to help you study better, not get tired while studying and preserving your concentration which Is very important. It helps you fight procrastination and makes you look forward to studying.

Studying isn’t really a problem for me, but writing notes ; if i’m being really honest; is tiring and i find it ever so difficult to concentrate when i’m writing my notes, ideally I decided to try the pomodoro method to help me concentrate better and write my notes more efficiently.

Before starting, i made a list of the things I want to accomplish in my 25 minutes so I can stick to them (Highly recommend) Starting my timer for 25 mins I started writing my notes…

The first set of 25 mins was productive, i checked all the things on my list I made at the start. I didn’t feel tired/exhausted/bored at all.

Next thing the method said was to take a break of 5 mins after every 25 minutes. I decided to read a book during my break. However, I found it difficult to stop and go back to writing my notes, my procrastination kicked in and I set another timer for 5 mins promising myself i would study after the next 5 minutes. Finally after a whole 15 minutes I went back to my notes.

Again with my list of things to do in the next 25 minutes I started off and again checked them all off!

CONCLUSION:

Overall, the pomodoro method is definitely effective and gives you all the listed benefits. However you need to stick to the timings and keep procrastination at bay. I would definitely recommend this method if you’re finding it difficult to concentrate. Moreover you can change the timings according to your suitability if you would like (increasing or decreasing the break and focus time). The main aim of this method is to make sure you take breaks while studying and study effectively.

Until next time,

Perhaps

She was writing furiously then why did she stop mid sentence, perhaps she was exhausted or maybe she was thinking. Perhaps.

Her plate looked full then why did she stop eating perhaps she was full or maybe she wasn’t hungry enough to begin with. Perhaps

Her stories were very intriguing then why did she stop mid sentence, perhaps she forgot or maybe she was thirsty. Perhaps.

NO I THINK WRONG

Perhaps a realisation dawned, who’s going to read my work?

Perhaps her insecurities spoke, ‘stop eating, its enough’

Perhaps she looked around, no one was listening. She fades.

NO SHE THOUGHT WRONG

Perhaps I should have told her, perhaps.

I don’t know what this exactly is, I tried something different this time!

Until next time,

New year, new beginnings {shower thoughts}

Morning! its the corner shop.

New year, new beginnings; something a lot of us may have heard over the last few days.

Happy new year!

With every year, we evolve and older memories are forgotten. New ones are made, friend circles are changed, personalities different, certain significant events however stay with us for lifetime. Is this however a never ending cycle that we can’t escape? What if this concept didnt exist, will our life not be so monotonous then? Instead of celebrating a new year are we getting ready to start the same cycle again of creating and losing memories instead? There are infinite ways the world could have worked.

My shower thoughts are certainly something to be pondered upon!!

Until next time,

5 effective ways to study better📑

Hi its the corner shop! Recently ive had lots of problems studying and concentrating without getting distracted. From trial and error ive realised a lot of about studying. Ideally I decided to share it with y’all, I hope it helps<3

  • Ambience: The atmosphere around you when you are studying is very very important. I personally dont prefer shutting the door as I feel suffocated. It is important to keep your study table (or whatever you study on) clear and clutter free. I recently decluttered my study area and made it less full of things and kept only what I needed.
  • Study in breaks: Almost all study guides dont encourage you to study for long periods of time(4-5hours) while studying is good it is important to make sure you dont ‘overstudy’. It can and will shatter your concentration, you will lose interest in studying and it will make you super tired all while you dont even absorb what you studied due to lack of interest/concentration. From personal experience I suggest you study for however long you want but take breaks every 1 or 2 hours!
  • Study smarter not harder: While rote learning proves effective for many (including me) its not the best method to study. As I graduated to higher grades I saw a drastic change in how the questions were asked, my rote learning proved ineffective in the last few years, as without understanding the subject at hand it was impossible for me to answer the questions. During this time I was compelled to change my method of studying and believe it or not studying just became more interesting for me when i actually understood the subject!
  • Utilise all study resources: If you’re aiming to score above average studying just from the book you’ve been given is not the most ideal method. Despite how much i’d like to say otherwise guidebooks and online quizzes have made a huge and noticeable difference when im studying! Its a great way to revise rather than reading my textbook and notes again and again:)
  • FOCUS ON YOURSELF: Finally, I cannot emphasise this enough, take care of yourself above all. Physical and mental health is super important if you want to get through these school years easily. Study regularly but also enjoy, dont stress over things that you find difficult to do instead work hard on finding a solution. Free yourself of negative thoughts and take care of your body. Just because its difficult doesnt mean you cant do it:)

Okay hi, here ends this post. The top five tips that helped me, and i hope they help you too. In the past month i decided to focus on myself and my mental health. My days are going productive and I also have an amazing sleep schedule (should i share it?) I’ve been very happy lately and I hope to better myself over the period of time.

How have you been? How’s your studying going? What are your views on the hype about Squid Game? I’d love to hear your thoughts!

Until next time,

10 things that give me serotonin🧸

Its the corner shop! Welcome and I hope you’re having a good day. I’ve been thinking about this post for a VERY long time, well its finally here. I hope you love reading it as much as I enjoyed writing it:)

  • Fresh Sheets: This is the first thing I thought about, the crisp and fresh smell of the fresh ironed sheets just feel different!
  • Unexpected findings in the pocket of my clothes: I’ve often found some of the things ive lost in my jacket or trouser pockets, i sometimes also find items ive completely forgot about and on a lucky day i manage to find to money too!! Finding these things are a pleasant and welcome suprise:)
  • Crossing an item of my to-do list: Without doubt this gives me immense satisfaction, i usually prefer to keep a to-do list to organize my work and crossing an item off it gives me an unexplainable kind of happinesxD
  • Starting a new book: when im starting a new book i mainly feel excitement, there’s also a lot of adrenaline too lmao. Eager to know the characters briefly described in the synopsis and letting the fictional world take over the little amount of concentration I have left, starting a new book is definitely a happy feeling.
  • Good hair day: A good hair day immediately boosts up my self confidence. The condition of my hair often reflects my mood, frizzy or messy hair is usually when i have completely given up on how my hair looks and wont be in the best mood, mind you:)
  • Cycling around the city: Peculiarly i enjoy cycling around in my city’s jam packed traffic-y roads rather than cycling on empty roads. The atmosphere in the evening is just so lively as people are heading back home after a hard day of work, cycling around the city is literally one of my favourite things to do!!
  • Unhealthy amounts of sleep: No matter how late i sleep, waking up after 9:30 a.m is a rare feat for me. So, on those rare days when i DO wake up after 9:30 makes me so happyy:) ALSO the look on my parents’ face is very meme-worthy hahaha
  • Dancing in the rain: Just yesterday when i was down with my friends, it just started raining and on an impulse decision we decided to go out there and have fun, despite the fact that it was terribly cold we had a great time, therefore dancing in the rain made it to the list xD

  • Writing poetry: writing poetry is therapy for me, i usually express the chaotic mess of emotions on the piece of paper in the form of poetry. It helps me remove my frustration and anger. Reading and writing poetry makes me feel calm and happy!!
  • Blogging<3: Blogging on ‘the corner shop’ has been a major highlight of my past year, thank you to everyone who has been a part of this journey:)

Okayy here ends this post, how many of these can you relate to? What are the top 3 things that give YOU serotonin? Do you want a part 2? Did you enjoy this post? I’d love to hear your thoughts!!

As always thanks for reading. Until we meet again, Ciao<3

Water you waiting for?⛲️

Morning its the corner shop!

I dont know if the title gave away too much but here are some foolproof fun tips to stay hydrated, that i tried and they worked very well for me!!

Benefits:

  • Relieves you of your fatigue: drinking water regularly has helped me reduce the lethargic and negative energy from my body, immediately making me super energetic and fresh! Dehydration had caused my body to be sleepy and lazy ALWAYS. I had chapped lips, dry skin and droopy eyes drinking water helped me immensely:)
  • Flushes out toxins: Drinking water helps you remove your toxin waste from your body in the form of urea. It will prevent the changes of kidney stones and other infections
  • Gives a happy glow to your skin: drinking sufficient water, gives a glow to your skin that makes you look fresh, healthy and rejuvenated. This is the most effective way to have good skin!!

I’m pretty sure you’ve heard many of these before but if you have any signs of dehydration i suggest you read on water is extremely helpful to our body and im sure there are many more benefits than the ones i mentioned!!

TIPS TO STAY HYDRATED:

  • Don’t wait until you are thirsty, previously whenever i felt thirsty i drank a glass of water however i realized that is wrong. It is important to drink water at regular intervals so the chances of you being thirsty are pretty low. Thirst is like a sign from your body that you’re lacking water in your system right? It shouldn’t come to that! You should be sufficiently hydrated at all times!!
  • Carry water with you wherever you go, i found this super useful!! Having a bottle with me reminds me to drink water regularly!!
  • A cute bottle, this is in relation to the previous point. If you find it difficult to carry water around everywhere start by investing in your dream bottle. I realize how this sounds but buying a new bottle really helped me drink water as i insisted on taking it literally everywhere because i loved it so much hahahahh
  • Add some spice, the fact that water is tasteless doesnt help in our quest to stay hydrated. I usually squeezed a few drops of lemon or orange in the water or added mint leaves which made drinking water so much more fun:)
  • Substituents of water, certain fruits like melon already have more than their fair share of water present in it. Eating these fruits (and vegetables) will also hydrate you equally!

Yaay you’ve reached the end:) I really hope these helped you and inspired you to drink more water!!! I really enjoyed writing this post!

Until next time, Ciao<33

Gratitude and joy, something happened!!

hey everyone its the corner shop!!

Despite my extremely unproductive days I woke up to a 100 followers recently!!! I would like to thank all of you readers and fellow bloggers for making this happen💕

Expressing happiness is not my strong forte but I try, I feel immensely happy that we are now a 3 digit family, there are days where I feel like shutting away but the WP community always draws me back into its realms!!

the anticipation I feel with every post I write is unreal, I love reading your comments and interacting ALL of you, I love reading YOUR posts and love this peaceful and happy community on the internet which we bloggers have created!!

I cannot thank all of you enough, I look forward to many more years on the corner shop.

Until next time,

Rainy thoughts and coffee pots☕️

hello its the corner shop, welcome!!

Where I live June is monsoon season and Im absolutely okay with that! Rainy seasons are the best seasons and I can argue with you about that for hours and hours. Some may say that rain is ‘depressing’ I would say it depends on your mood. Rain for me is curling up with a book and sitting outside with coffee.

As I write this its currently raining outside, I smelt it before I heard it the earthen and fresh smell of the soil before it rains Its pleasant and better than any perfumed fragrance you can think of. As the clouds turned grey I was expecting this shower, like I said earlier rain reflects my mood, today is going to be a depressing rain. I am not quite sure what I am exactly feeling but there’s definitely dread, hope and disappointment. A weird mix of emotions I agree!

As I trudge from my desk where I’m ‘supposed’ to be studying I go to make coffee. My dad as it happens to be is somewhat of a coffee connoisseur, but I stick to Robusta, a simple mixture which you can find almost anywhere. My father likes to roast and grind it himself and therefore the process of making Robusta in the coffee maker is almost effortless.

Due to the rain im also quite sleepy, this is also because of my abnormal sleep schedule which consists of staying up all night:)

I have recently been going through somewhat of a writer’s block, I have infinite post ideas but the motivation to write them seems to have been misplaced with procrastination and laziness. Today was different however the rain gave way to something in me as I spontaneously started writing this abandoning all the assignments I have, and I feel much better already!

The plants in my terrace are swaying heavily with the breeze as water droplets fall on me through the window, I immediately feel rejuvenated! A beep from the kitchen indicated that my coffee was done as the smell of freshly brewed coffee wafted through the house I cut myself a slice of the banana walnut cake I baked and take the coffee to the terrace.

As I arrange blankets and sofas in an utterly incomprehensible way such that I have a nice cushiony mess that would prevent me from getting drenched. I take back what I said this was definitely NOT a depressing rain.

To go with the mood I start writing poetry, something which helps me relax me as I try to put EVERYTHING I am feeling, the complex mix of emotions onto my journal.

As the bitter coffee makes way into food pipe, I feel at peace.

As the sound of rain vibrates through my eardrum, I feel ecstatic.

As I write this, I see clearly. The fog of doubt has cleared. I feel valid and I feel productive.

I finish my coffee and my poem as the rain is beginning to stop as the clouds clear away giving way to a clear sky, the day full of opportunities, I go inside and start my assignments once again but this time with a determination to make the best out of it!

Until next time,

Happy Pride Month🏳️‍🌈

Good morning!!

As most of you probably know June is know as the ‘Pride Month’ and for those of you who dont know pride refers to the queer or LGBTQ+ community which stands for lesbian, gay bisexual, transgender and other people of diverse sexuality!

Pride month every year is celebrated in June to honour the stonewall riots. As the community comes together to oppose the stigma attached to them. I am not part of their community but I fully support them and feel that regardless of their sexuality everyone has a right to live!

Our country is cruel and harsh when it comes to the LGBTQ+ community but we are making progress towards making our country more open minded to the possibility that there is more to love than gender! I dont know what much I can do to help the community but I certainly try!

Of course, some do not support this community and it okay only until they keep these opinions to themselves, using derogatory terms, creating a stigma around them and subjecting them to shame is NOT OKAY, we must work towards making them feel liberated and free rather than being critical about them!

I’ve also come across many use ‘gay’ as a slur or an insult, they try to prove their masculinity by questioning others this is known as toxic masculinity. Gay is their identity, its a part of their personality it is NOT a joke or an insult and please do not use it as such!

I just wanted to address these issues because they really unhinge me!

Happy Pride Month to all my queer friends out there! You are valid and your opinions matter, ily’all✨

P.S this post was supposed to be published on June 10th but it took me 10 days to add a featured image and tags, thank you procrastination:)

Bonjour June🌦

Hey welcome, its the corner shop!

I can’t believe its June already, May went by really quick and honestly it was a pretty good month!

My holidays started in may and are going to end next week:// But these were one of the most productive holidays ive had so far!! I had quite a lot of holiday homework which im almost done with, i also learnt embroidery and read quite a lot of books this month! I made 5 new friends today (Irl) and that’s kind of a big accomplishment considering how big of an introvert I am

This month was a very important month for the growth of my blog, if you look at my archives the maximum ive written is 4 posts a month, usually it was just 1 or 2! Last month I wrote a whooping 7 posts🥳 I had taken a very very big and uncalled hiatus from January to April and I just lost interest in blogging, May was my comeback month and I did wayyy better that I expected to, im also lOvIng blogging and its become a part of my life now, so if you ever lose interest in blogging just remember that maybe you can try it a few months later, im sure you’ll love it!!

Unfortunately for me my screen time was a little toooo much this year and that’s not good for my eyes because I have very high eye power! I also wrote my first ever Collab post, and more are going to come soon but im just out of ideas so if you do have any please let me know:)

My goals for this month:

  • Cut down on screen time
  • blog consistently
  • Be up to date on all my studies
  • Write more poetry
  • Learn something new:)
  • Be active on my Pinterest ( I have a Pinterest but I won’t share the link until I add up some content!!)

Books ive read last month:

  • Hippie by Paulo Coelho
  • Six of Crows (duology) by Leigh Bardugo
  • Nevernight (trilogy) by Jay Kristoff

Posts I’ve written last month:

I also released my book blog last month so overall this was a good and productive month, and I hope for the same this month:)

P.S This blog is open for collabs and guest posts so dont hesitate reach out to me via my ‘Contact’ page.

How was your month? Did you accomplish all your goals for the month? I would love to hear your thoughts!!

Until next time, as always thank you for reading<3 Ciao;)

Confidence is your greatest armour!

Heyy welcome, this is the corner shop! I hope you’re having the best day!!

By confidence I mainly mean self confidence, how many times have we not spoken up because we weren’t ‘sure’ or because we were ‘shy’. Now dont get me wrong there’s nothing wrong with being shy but there’s wrong in not doing something because you are scared of what others think i.e you lack self confidence my friend.

When you are confidence your self worth increases, the respect you have for yourself increases and therefore you become happier. This sounds like a very simple 1+1=2 concept but the bitter truth is that its not so simple,

Speaking from personal experience instilling self confidence is not that easy, but it is if you really put your mind to it. Below are certain reasons why you should!

  • Confidence takes over your anxiety, because anxiety is basically nervousness and worry, if you are confident about something there isn’t place for doubt!
  • Confidence is contagious, if you are very sure about something it will reassure others to be to, it will motivate them and hence it does not only benefit you but everyone around you!
  • Confidence will rid you of the social tension, if you are like me then being in social gatherings and interacting with people if often a task. There are constant thoughts like, ‘do I look okay?’ ‘Did I smile at her?’ ‘did I offend him?’ and many more😂 But when I am confident I dont feel doubt because I am sure that what I am doing is right, and therefore I can also enjoy!!
  • Amazing sleep, out of all this one is probably my favourite, because I can sleep a much more peaceful sleep because like I Said earlier there is no fear of doing wrong nor is there that ever persisting anxiety tugging at me:)

Surround yourself with people you love, assure and comfort yourself! Set your goals one at a time but dont forget to follow them! It is important not to compare yourself and make the right decisions during the process. Dont push yourself to be the best because everyone is imperfect one way or the other, of course being completely confident is going to take time, but if you are patient it is achievable and Im sure you’ll love the confident new you!!

By following these few steps my confidence just went📈 I freed myself from negative thoughts and had the strength to overcome any obstacle that dare came my way and therefore with 100% confidence I can say that confidence is your greatest armour!!

Vintage Aesthetic🗝

Hey everyone hope you are having a great day/night, this is the corner shop! I’m back with another post ✨Vintage Aesthetic✨

Out of all the aesthetics, vintage is literally my favourite, for those of you who dont know Aesthetic is a type of fashion that people would describe as as pleasing to look at. However, I would say that this kind of fashion is bold, eccentric and probably would have been in trend years ago

It includes jewellery, photography and clothes and even furniture but mainly focuses on clothing. It focuses on the 2000’s and goes on backwards till the 1890’s this includes victorian and flapper dresses (to live in that timeee😍😍).

I dont own a lot of vintage pieces but I have 3 which I found on an online thrift store, in the past many looked down upon thrift store pieces because it displayed ‘lack of wealth or social status in society’ but right now they’re the new hottest thing and the demand for thrift store pieces have shot up, guess the saying ‘old is gold’ doesn’t lie:)

They have an old or rustic effect for example distressed or washed up fabric whose demand blew up in these past years. This trend was appreciated by most of the population including the usually disapproving senior citizen (sorry not sorry:) because it bought out ‘nostalgic‘ memories for them

Now a vintage photo is something grainy or something that has a LOT of exposure which demonstrates that these were clicked by a old camera. It has Low resolution and warmer tones for example a photo taken by an instant camera like a Polaroid sure gives the vintage aesthetic

After this came the retro style which usually has lots of bright colours in the 40’s – 60’s like bellbottoms, woollen skirts, reptile handbags, pearls, bohemian style flowy shirts and skirts and thigh hight boots

Baggy clothes with rock bands, gold chain or chokers are also part of this aesthetic.

4 Podcasts that you NEED to hear 🎧

Hey welcome its the corner shop!

Today’s post is about pOdCasts✨

So I recently started listening to podcasts and now they’re part of my daily routine. You have a lot of different genres you can chose from, depending on what you like, is almost like an audio book!

I use apple podcasts to listen to them but you can use Spotify and google podcasts too. Ideally I decided to share my top 4 favourite ones out of all the ones I heard, if you haven’t heard podcasts until now, I hope this post inspires you to do so. I’m sure you won’t regret it!!

I mainly like 2 genres thriller and comedy. All of them are fiction, if you prefer non-fiction like talk shows let me know I could recommend a few!

#SOFT VOICE

Lydia is a young, successful woman. Successful only because of soft voice who resides in Lydia’s head, constant advice and do’s and don’ts from soft voice is the deceitful secret behind Lydia’s success and unrealistic perfection. but one day soft voice disappears and instead comes ‘Dark voice’ (*cue mic drop*)

This dark thriller is one of its kind and keeps you wanting for more, I was completely hooked to this show until the end!

#14 DAYS WITH FELICITY

This comedy show is just something to lighten up your day. Actress Felicity is in jail because of her involvement in a college scandal. As she serves 14 days she manages to smuggle her phone in to ‘stay in touch’. Join her as she tRiEs to make amends and discover herself in these 14 days!

This show made me smile at her quirky and unloving nature as she doesn’t let anything ruin her day, would 100% recommend!!

#GASLIGHT

This is another thrillerrr! This 10 episode podcast will keep you brimming in anticipation as you try to uncover its mystery hehe! Danny returns back 8 years after her mysterious disappearance, several questions arise from her friend Rebecca, who she choses to visit rather than visiting her parents first. How will this not-so-pleasant reunion turn out?

THAT MY DEAR FRIEND IS FOR YOU TO FIND OUT!

#THE CARLOTTA BEAUTOX CHRONICLES

This comedy podcast is about the misadventures of a wannabe actress Kitty (now Carlotta) but the world is hell bent on preventing her from becoming one. As she jumps and rolls through the never ending obstacle of becoming fAmOus this podcasts will never fail to amaze you!

Give it a watch as she becomes your next best favourite character!

Before you go:

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My first ever Collab post!

Two perspective book review- Collab With Maith!

Hey everyone, welcome! This the corner shop. Today i’m here with my first ever Collab with Maith from Jovial Pages! Do check out her blog here she’s an amazing blogger and has a wonderful feed! Below is Maith’s book review and mine is at her blog, do go check it out!

The Perks of Being a Wallflower (2012) - IMDb
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Hey everyone! This is Maith from Jovial Pages and I am so excited to be doing this collab with Arwa! She reached out to me for a collaboration which involves something we both love- Books! So, we decided to do a two-sided review of the book- ‘The Perks of Being a Wallflower’ written by Stephen Chbosky. Her review is back at my blog and here is mine!

So, I recently got interested in young adult literature after reading all the John Green books. I really enjoyed his contemporary writing and the simple message the books convey. I was looking for more such books and that is when I found ‘The Perks of Being a Wallflower.’ From the minute I turned open the cover, the words of the author have been lingering around my brain.

Charlie is the protagonist. A reclusive teenager who has been deeply impacted by his best friend’s suicide and his aunt’s death. Now he has been forced to make it through high school. Charlie tries to fight back all the deep spiraling thoughts running through his mind by writing letters to a ‘Friend.’

At school, Charlie finds a friend and mentor in his English teacher, Bill. He also tries to overcome his irrational shyness and approaches a classmate, Patrick, who, along with his stepsister Sam, become two of Charlie’s BFFs. Through his reckless buddies, Charlie leaps into the real world through misadventures that refigure his somewhat distant past and learns a dark secret.

Charlie is observant and honest to himself. He constantly tries to come out of his bubble, even though it is excruciating. His letters are insightful and filled with hope that he instills in himself. Though he goes through flickers of angst, doubt, hatred towards authority, sorrow just like a normal teenager, at the end, he still has a faded smile.

There are many aspects that can be a little ‘much,’ uncomfortable or not worth mentioning yet the lovely POV carried by the enigmatic novel adds to the intrigue of Charlie. At some moments, I couldn’t but feel pity for Charlie seeing how faint his family were, to him especially. His ‘friend’ definitely gave him warmth.

Sam and Patrick are the perfect chums. Their outgoing charisma totally counterbalances Charlie’s eeriness and make their small group wholesome! Sam and Patrick pushing, Charlie pulling; simply perfect.

The one facet of books I find fascinating is the conciseness of language. The more complicated it becomes; the true color of the book is lost. Stephen Chbosky conserved its potential by keeping it poignant yet vanilla. This captivated me even more.

Now, as I mentioned previously, some topics were way to harsh for me personally. But it wasn’t overwhelming. The book is filled to the brim with emotions that will drown you in profound thought. It will get you thinking about the good things and what really matters in life.

Just as Charlie said:

“We are who we are for a lot of reasons. And maybe we’ll never know most of them. But even if we don’t have the power to choose where we come from, we can still choose wherever we go from there. We can still do things. And we can try to feel okay about them.”

This book is yearning for the past, whilst also looking forward to the days to come. Thank you, Charlie, for making me feel ecstatic about life.
I give it 4.5 stars.

here ends her review, hope you enjoyed reading it! Go check out her blog Jovial Pages where you can find my review on the book!

Thank you so much Maith! This was really fun!

Beautiful is not a size💁‍♀️

Hey it’s the corner shop, welcomeeee.

So today I want to discuss stereotypical misconceptions regarding the term ‘beautiful’

Beautiful is a mindset. Beautiful is an expression. Beautiful is a compliment. But beautiful is NOT a size.

It is wrong to classify someone ‘beautiful’ because of their BODY TYPE. Oxford dictionary defines beautiful as: having beauty; pleasing to the senses or to the mind. I am really confused to how this has any thing to do with our weight or body shape. Society often demands us to bow down to stereotypical beautiful standards- an hourglass figure, a heart shape face, bow lips etc. And those who not fit into these ideal beauty standards are often body shamed.

A major problem is that media often shows people with these ‘so called’ ideal beauty standards and people usually appreciate celebrities because of their looks. In a world where technology is the key to success I believe we should stop and think, because no one is perfect even if their feed is otherwise, filters and photoshop are highly deceptive and though they make us look better we dont learn to face ourselves and often point out our insecurities.

From our childhood we have been seeing that our dolls and Disney princesses and characters in cartoons have tiny waists, slender arms etc. And someone who isn’t that way isn’t often portrayed in a negative character. As the new generation I feel we must start breaking this stereotype.

so guys I just want to say that your jean size or your shirt size isn’t what makes you beautiful, all of us are beautiful in our own way, we must accept ourselves and break these stereotypes. The word beautiful is a spectrum. And beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder.

THE RIGHT TO DETERMINE SOMEONE’S BEAUTY IS NOT YOURS! LETS MAKE THE WORLD A BETTER PLACE, ALL BODY TYPES ARE BEAUTIFUL!!

before I end this post I just want to clarify that despite the fact we must embrace our body, it is completely okay if someone isn’t happy with their body and wants to be fitter. you shouldn’t however be compelled to lose weight to be accepted in society or be more like others, rather do it because you want to or because it makes you feel better!


P.S: picture from google

The weight of a decision𐄷

Hey its the corner shop. I’m back with another value post. Today i want to talk about how making certain life changing choices causes stress on us, how to deal with it and how to make the most right choice of them all.

A very prominent and relatable example of making a life changing choice is choosing a career. Whilst choosing a career we are faced with a lot of societal, peer and financial problems. You may wanna choose an unconvential job or one that your parents do not approve of. Your job may also not provide stable financial means.

Such are a few problems that we may face. Now since there is a lot on our plate we first have to organise our thoughts and start from there.

#WRITE DOWN THE PROS AND CONS OF YOUR DECISION

its is important to get all your doubts and thoughts and write them down that will definitely help you get a better grip of the situation and allows you to understand what you want.

#FOCUS ON YOUR PRIORITIES

You may think that your decision is right for you, but you may have to look around and see if it benefits others, your decision (according to the circumstances) should not be a selfish and harmful one. Your final decision should also not be a right choice you want to make but should be a right choice you need to make, something that is beneficial to your and interest but should not be causing harm to others in the process.

#DON’T OVERTHINK

okay this one’s very important, while making a decision it is important not to overthink the decision and continually think about it, this may lead to puncturing several doubts into your final decision which you have been very confident and sure about in the start!

#WHAT IS DONE IS DONE

it is pointless to regret what you have done, hopefully with these tips decision making may be easier but if yet a wrong decision is made then there’s isn’t a single thing you can do about it other than learn from your mistakes, so you shouldn’t regret and grieve the impact of the wrong choice rather take care in your next time.

P.S: I’ve been AWOL lately but im back now, so do get in touch!

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I’m back!

hey everyone its the corner shop, first things first I have been AWOL since more than 3 months I suppose but im back now. I feel I needed this break to reconnect with myself and go through redemption in the past year there were a lot of things I regret about and things would have turned out so differently if only I would have time to think and reconnect with myself. blogging on corner shop has been a major highlight of my past year and it has turned out better than I would have ever hoped for.

the past year has played a major part on the development of me as a person. Every year, every month we change, adapt and develop. every year we change a little and look back on our previous selves with a little bit of sorrow and second hand embarrassment and it would be the same for 2020.

I hope that this year would also be a fruitful and awesome year for me as 2020 was, I hope I meet as many great people as I met this year, try to improve my personality and focus on this blog.

life isn’t as tough as we make it. survive, the key to life is to survive grow through the cracks of walls like wildflowers and bloom into beautiful beings, spread happiness and positivity THAT is the key to life, embrace your imperfections and accept your difficulties. Become comfortable in your skin, you may have heard this before but you are unique and you are special.

HAPPY NEW YEAR!

since im back on the wagon, be ready for posts every Wednesday or Thursday like usual;)

thanks for reading, till we meet again, ciao ❤

Something Bookish🦋

welcome to the corner shop. I realised despite my dynamic love for books and literature, I haven’t done any bookish posts till now so letss goo

so I wasn’t completely sure what I would be doing because reviews aren’t exactly my thing but okayy

ps: book cover pictures are from good reads

1, What im reading,

Dear Martin (Dear Martin, #1)

im reading ‘Dear Martin’ by Nic Stone. quick history, I bought this book because I read another book of this ‘odd one out’ I loved his way of writing and am intrigued by the topic of discussion – racial inequality.

2, What I’ll read next

Big Little Lies

I’ve been keen on reading this book for a long time but I delayed it, waiting for the right moment hehe 😉 this book is about murder, and revolves around mothers. it is supposed to be a balance between murder and comedy. sounds fun already:)

3, What I read before ‘Dear Martin’

The Kite Runner

this book is the best one ive read so far and Im not kidding! usually I dislike rating books as it is often a tough decision, but I feel this is it, my favourite book so far! there are some books when you think and feel a change or something different when you finish the book. this book is one of them. it revolves around 2 young boys, one from a wealthy background, another not. it highlights their unbreakable bond and the truths they unravel as they grow up and the problems they face. this book is heavy with emotion and a must read for anyone who has an interest in books!

Bookish discussion!

of course this post doesn’t end here, I wanted to have this discussion for a long time,

Ebook vs print

kindles have really become a thing these days, with the prices cut lower than the paperback and availability of is much more easier, the collection diverse and kindle being compact and easier to carry around people surely prefer this bliss of a digital library. however the print media is suffering great losses, while many (*raises hand*) still prefers paperback and hardcover over the ebook for various reasons most common being the’ feel’ and the lack of awareness of online transactions etc. Eyesight is another problem (which implies to me here) despite kindle’s book like structure where it is not possible to read ebooks in the dark, it is advisable not to use kindle, many people argue about this but I chose not to take a risk 😉

What do you think?

BOOKS: boon or bane?

I know a few people would kill me if I this but I feel they are a bane too-

BANE

#1 I get very easily distracted and thereby im not able to *focus* on other work like studies and classes.

#2 excessive reading makes my head hurt and my eyes teary

#3 I become a couch potato 😉 I dont help in any work and prefer to sit and read in a corner (teehee)

#4 my posture is ruined, because I can’t keep in check my posture when read cause im usually ‘lost’ in the book.

BOON

I think you know it all, they are the best, they put my mind off something I dont want to think about, they help me, they entertain me, they take me to another world even though im actually stuck at home, they replace television for me most of the times and is much more better to the eye than television, they- I think you got the point though.

what do you think?


You need a social media break and here’s why + awards!

welcome to the corner shop today we’re going to be talking about social media and why you need a break , this time FOR REAL!

why do you need a break?

#1 you feel anxiety when you’re not on social media, often when you or for that matter me feel anxiety of separation or missing out because you are not scrolling through posts or typing tweets. but do you actually realise that if you don’t scroll through posts or type tweets life isn’t going to stop, if you spend a little time on real life rather than online it wouldn’t kill:)

#2 you can’t put down the phone even when you’re with people, this has happened to me all the time. It was so difficult for me to put down my device as I believed social media was more fun. this led my friends and others around me too to think it was okay to scroll through their phone while having live company right near them. after my social media break I took it to keep my device aside and focus on my friends and guess what, its so much more fun!

#3 its the only thing on your mind, and you start comparing. it makes you feel insecure but its important to remember that everyone’s lives get messy despite how their feed looks like, upside downs are a part of life. and if any of these are a part of your lives then you DEFINITELY need a break!!

How is a social media break going to help you?

when you’re off social media you get to focus on other things like I got to focus on poetry (which you can read here ) you can focus on your hobbies, studies, friends etc. you can actually go down and interact with people and make new friends! It stops me from scrolling aimlessly, and I can use this time to be more productive. I can actually sleep earlier and wake up fresher as there are no distractions. Its almost like a burden has been lifted of your shoulders.

AWARDS!

okay so today im going to be awards which I procrastinated about and never got about to do them 🙂

#1 OUTSTANDING BLOGGER AWARD

The Rules

  1. Provide the link to the creator’s original award post. (Click here to see the original post!!
  2. Answer the questions provided.
  3. Create 7 unique questions.
  4. Nominate 10 bloggers. Ensure that they are aware of their nomination. Neither the award’s creator, nor the blogger that nominated you, can be nominated.
  5. At the end of 2020, every blog that ping-backs the creator’s original post will be entered to win the 2020 Outstanding Blogger Award!

First, thank you so much Addie @ shining star for the nomination please go do check out her blog! here are her questions:

1, If you could live on a different planet than Earth, which one would you live on? Why?

I think it would be Neptune, probably because it looks so beautiful from outside you know all swoon shades of blue! it would be like living in a mystical land haha


2, If you had one wish, what would it be for?

so if you don’t know already I have very high eye power and it makes it difficult for me to watch television or any sort of screen for a long time. so id probably want my power to reduce


3, What is one unique thing about yourself?

I think its probably that im approachable and easy to talk to:) I think I have fairly good communicative skills!


4, Would you rather own an island or a city?

of course an island! I live in the city so would love the former more! I love the idea of living in an island with water around! Islands are always a favourite of mine because im fond of water bodies I just love them hehe!


5, Would you rather become a musical artist or comedian?

ok that’s a tough one, so I think I prefer musical artist. because I recently read a book about music and its rich culture, heritage etc. and its so interesting, I would definitely want to be a part of that enriching history lol


6, What book have you read the most times through?

so I’m really fond of strong female characters in books like in the ‘Red Queen’ series so I have read it the most times through that is 3 (I usually despise re-reading books)


7, If you had to remove something from your life for a year, what would it be?

wow that’s interesting, id probably remove negativity from my life all year! it would make the year soo much better haha


Once again thank you Addie for the nomination and interesting questions, it was great fun answering them! now for my questions:

  1. if you had to read one book for the rest of your life which one would it be?
  2. would you rather be an author or a public speaker?
  3. who is your role model and why?
  4. what is one question you have the most difficulty in answering?
  5. what do you aspire to be in future?
  6. how do you think the world can be a better place?
  7. how would you define yourself in 3 words?

so these are my questions and I nominate,

Roshni @ Roshni’s random thoughts

Evin @ a curly sue’s rambling

Zainab @ Zainab chats

Shanessa @ my days in montana

Bookish thinker @ paper hearts

Iridescent

Lrose5 and evin @ out in the randomness

Maggie @ Maggie’s doodles

Besondersite

Esther @ Esther’s nook

my button swap page is up let me know if you’d like to swap!

~ARWA